0489 - Farbrengen of Simchas Torah 5730 Part 3 - Tznius

00:01 In the same farbrengen of Yem Sumchas Torah Tov Shulamit, the Rebbe spoke something very practical and very, in very simple terms, down-to-earth terms. The Rebbe said that since we mentioned before that there's a good thing that if the children will have a hashpa'ah, an influence on the parents because of Cheshev Levov Es Avonim, and in America that fits because the children do things different than the parents, that they could influence the parents. So the Rebbe wants to mention something else that he wants, that if the children should have an influence on the parents, that the parents should also be dressed, mothers should also be dressed in tznius dike clothes. Not like this great pirtzah that became in the union of tznius. We can't even imagine what we're talking about here, that even older women do it. The Rebbe said, "I don't mean the older woman that I mentioned in the Rajbo, that if something that there's a meaning of noshim skenit, it's something very special." We're talking about poshet, something that the older women do, that they also don't wear tznius dike. And the eitzah, in order to be successful, to influence them, has to come from the young girls, the Rebbe said. And therefore, we have to explain to the young girls why it's no good and explain it in a way that they will understand it also with their logic, and then they'll become tznius dike, and then they'll also have an influence on the parents. And this is what the Rebbe said

01:18 you have to explain to them, that if a girl doesn't wear tznius dike and she wears a short skirt, you know what that means? That she thinks of herself, that there's no other way that she could attract the attention of a bocher, not with her seichel, because she obviously doesn't have seichel, not with the feeling of the heart, because she obviously doesn't have it, not with any ma'alas. And bechlal, she's not a person. The only way she could attract a bocher is by revealing, uncovering a place which has to be covered. But this shows how low she thinks of herself. She's as if carrying a sign saying that I don't have seichel, I don't have feeling, I don't have any ma'alas, I don't have anything. Even my face is ugly. The only ma'ala I have is that I'm uncovering a place which should be covered, and that's gonna entice the bocher. And then he'll wanna talk to me, and he'll say hello to me. That's a great shiftless, that she shows only pritzus and no other ma'alas. And she's saying it in the public, and she's showing it to everybody that she has no ma'alas. And it says like in the pasuk that a fool is proud, prides himself with his foolishness, with his stupidity. And that's what she's showing. Now, we know there's a psak din in Torah that neisi srol yofeh saying all Jewish girls are beautiful, but some by some it's begili, some it's not begili, and you have to bring it

02:32 out, the beauty, but not through bringing pritzus. And when we'll explain this to the girls, it'll make it easier for them, make the nesoin easier for them. And in this, they will see that America is nit andesh. They're just like in the old country before. People were tznius dike, so America is not different. It shows a bit tznius dike. And he says the reason that the girls do it is because the mothers do it. The mothers want them to do it because the mother doesn't want the daughters to wear long skirts. So it shouldn't-- she shouldn't look like she's a older person. She'll look like an eberson. And if she looks like an eberson, that makes the mother look even older. So they'll think the mother is 70 years old. And who wants to look like 70, even if she's 80, the Rebbe said. Who wants to look 70 years old? So the eitzah is, the mother thinks is, how is she gonna make herself look younger? She'll cut the dress of the daughter. So then it'll show that the daughter is young, but maybe she's also young. So bemeila, even the bubbe, even the grandmother, who's 90 years old, will also make herself look as if she's under bas mitzvah. The Rebbe made this sarcastically. So we have to use the strength of the youth in America, that the youth have their strength for good things, to explain this to the youth, to the young girls. And bemeila, they will have an influence on

03:43 their mothers, v'heshev levov es avonim, that the mother, the children will have an influence on the mothers. Now, this was very strange because the Rebbe said it by the farbrengen, because the Rebbe by a farbrengen with chasidim, with hasidim, should speak so outright such very clear things. So it was a little bit strange. So what I heard was that the Chalom Mendel Futefas would come for every Tishri to the Rebbe. This farbrengen he missed because he was sick laying in bed. He couldn't come to the farbrengen. After the farbrengen, when the people, his relatives came home where he was, he'd first thing guess, what did the Rebbe speak about the farbrengen? So they told him what the Rebbe spoke about. And they mentioned this whole opinion too, that the Rebbe spoke about very simple and very down-to-earth terms, which seems a little bit strange for a Rebbe to speak like that about cut, uh, sh- short skirts and, and dresses and that she's not beautiful, all these things. So the Mendel Futefas, when he heard it, he said, "Oh, now I understand that, that Zalman Meisha was right." Zalman Meisha was a big chossid, a big mashpia, but we know that when he used to farbrengen, he used to use words which were not so appropriate, and people had ta'anas to him. And the Mendel Futefas was a talmid muvag, a mushpa from Rav Zalman Meisha. When they asked Rav Zalman Meisha why he does it, so he said, "The nefesh habhamis doesn't understand any

05:02 other language." When you wanna talk to a person and explain something that should reach him really, really into his yetzer hara, into his nefesh habhamis, you gotta speak his language. So that's why he said he spoke that language. So the Mendel Futefas said that he sees from this that the Re-- that Rav Zalman Meisha was right, that that's exactly what the Rebbe did. The Rebbe lowered himself and spoke the simple language down to earth because that's the only way he could explain it to the nefesh habhamis, which fits what the Rebbe writes in the Sicha in Chelek Yud. Sicha is Chelek Yud, Parashat Noach. He writes that even though you have to speak Lashon Nokhi, and the Torah always tries to speak Lashon Nokhi in clean language, but if it's negei lamaise, lahalach lamaise posher to say what to do, you have to be very clear. You can't just say words which are fancy. It has to be very, very clear. So in this case also, the Rebbe spoke very, very clear, something very, very specific. B'negei short skirts and how she shows that she has no brains, and she shows the, the world that, that there's no other way that she could have influenced or attract a bocher, et cetera, in very simple words. Because to speak down to earth and that the nefesh habhamis should understand and you should really take it seriously, you have to speak very clear, and that's what the Rebbe did in this farbrengen.