0062 - Growing a Beard Part 1

00:01 There was a younger man who didn't have a beard, and it was known that his excuse was, that's what people were saying, his excuse was that his wife doesn't want him to have a beard. And he was from a real Lubavitcher family, but he didn't have a beard. So I remember once by Farbrengen, the Rebbe said to him he should say L'Chaim, and the Rebbe said it out loud. And the Rebbe said, called him by his name, and he said, "Zog L'Chaim un zolst farlozn a boird." And then the Rebbe said, "Un azoy ivn az nit nor di vaib zol zayn tsufrieden, bay du zol zayn tsufrieden." He told him, "Say L'Chaim, and you should grow a beard." And then he said, "You should grow it in such a way that not only your wife should be happy, but you should be happy." In other words, the Rebbe was trying to say that you're blaming it on your wife, but really it's not your wife, really it's you. So you should grow a beard in a way that not only your wife should be happy, that you should also be happy. So like telling him that you're blaming it on her, but really it's to be blamed, you should be blamed.