Tznius (8) - The Husband's Conduct

00:00 The hemshech in reference to the earlier installments where we discussed the Rebbe's Sicha on the 28th of Iyar, Tav Shin Chav Ches, spring 1968, on the topic of tznius, we now continue with installment number eight, where we refer to the Rebbe's Sicha about 10 days later on the Yom Tov of Shavuot. The Rebbe would customarily fabreng, speak for hours, towards the conclusion of a Yom Tov. Here, the Rebbe elaborates on tznius with a special reference also to the husband's conduct. The Rebbe stated the following as it is translated here in English. The tznius of the woman depends on the man, and not as those who hold that there is no connection between them. This is an error right from the beginning. If there is a desire that one of the married couple should be complete with an excellent appropriate conduct, the second party also needs to conduct likewise. When there is a deficiency by one, it influences the other. Likewise, when it comes to positive acts, it is manyfold. When one increases in tznius, it makes an impression on the second half of the home, the wife, on the kids, and on the home in general. Regarding the question, who should make the initiative? Whoever begins tov ye'aleim bracha, should have a blessing on them. And realistically, they can both start at the same time. The tznius by a man is connected with what one looks at, and even without the need to check the details. In the famous booklet, Teivetz Kontros Ha'aveida, written by

02:10 the Rebbe Rashab, the fifth Rebbe of Chabad, where he focuses how one should restrict himself in certain actions. Everyone is aware, the Rebbe says, by evaluating oneself, that one needs to restrict oneself from looking or listening to matters and topics which are inappropriate or immodest or corrupt. Likewise, the material one reads and their dress style. All this has an effect on the tznius of the man in all aspects. There is no need to elaborate on these details, and especially that it does not generate pleasure for anyone. And as mentioned earlier, that the conduct of the man, the husband, influences the wife, and likewise, the conduct of the wife influences the husband. As we find this in Jewish history, that in the merit of Rachel Imeinu, the wife of Yaakov Avinu, conducting herself with tznius, modesty, she merited to a descendant who was Shaul HaMelech, King Saul. And in the merit of King Saul conducting himself with tznius, modesty, he merited to a descendant referred to and known as Queen Esther, through whom the geulah of the Jewish nation was accomplished. We will, im yirtze Hashem, continue in the next installment.