0539 - Why the Losing Party is Upset at the Rov

00:01 It's assumed by most people that what is the reason why when a person has a dintoyre and he loses his dintoyre, he's upset at the Rov that he made him lose money. On the other hand, if he comes with a shaila of kashrus, let's say, about a certain thing and the Rov paskens it's treif and he loses the same amount of money, he won't be angry at the Rov. So it's always assumed the reason is because when you come with a shaila to the Rov, you don't have an opinion. You're a Yid, a frum Yid, and you ask the Rov the shaila, whatever the Rov paskens, you know that's the din, that's it. But when you come to a dintoyre, you have an opinion. You feel 100% that you are right. So when the Rov paskens that you are wrong, you're angry at the Rov. And therefore it was a chidush that the Rebbe in one of the fabrengins had a different shot. That was in the fabrengin of Chof Tes Tishrei Tov Shen Chof Veis, which was a tzays cham l'sholom fabrengin for Dorchim that came for Tishrei. And this is what the Rebbe said then. That they say that once they asked a big Rov, what's the reason that when you come to a Rov with a shaila and a big aks even, it's worth a lot of money. And the Rov says the din is so-and-so, sometimes he says it's not kosher. So it doesn't happen that the butcher is going to

01:13 start a vayitzaku or he'll demand from the Rov to look through it again and see what the din is. Maybe he made a mistake. Maybe it's kosher. But you come to a dintoyre, even if it's a small amount, and there are two sides and the Rov pasken that one of them is right. So in most cases, the other side will start a vayitzaku. They tochen that the Rov pasken that the other one is right because I know that I'm right. And the answer that's given to this, al derech hatzachos, the Rebbe said, which means not a real answer. Al derech hatzachos is that it's connected to the characteristics and the nature and quality of a person. That when it comes to, when it doesn't come to another person, in other words, when you lose but no one else gains, then the yetzer hara could take it. But not only, but when you not only lose, but you also give this to somebody else, that the yetzer hara can't take anymore. In other words, the Rebbe was saying that the reason is because the other guy won. By a shaila, no one else won. You lost money because it's treif, so you lost money. But no one else gained. But by a dintoyre, if you lost, the other one gained. That's what bothers the person. That's why he's angry because the other person gained. Now it's interesting, this shot, that it's different than what we'd assume. This is a chidush. And at that time when the

02:28 Rebbe said it, people were thinking that this is a chidush. But maybe that's the reason why the Rebbe said that this is an answer, al derech hatzachos. Because al derech hapshat, so to speak, a simple shot, is because he has no opinion. That's why he doesn't scream. But there he has an opinion. But al derech hatzachos, this shows the nature of a person. The nature of a person is if I lose is one thing, but the other guy should get, should gain, that's a problem. That's really what the yetzer hara can't take.