0432 - Feelings and Seder of Yechidus of Bochurim Part 4

00:00 Concerning the Seder of Yechidus, when Yechidus was and for who Yechidus was. So it's like this. Originally, there were three times a week that the Rebbe took for Yechidus: Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. And this went on till Teves-Cheshvan. Teves-Cheshvan, it stopped, and the Rebbe took Yechidus only twice a week, which was Sunday and Thursday. There were times of the year when the Rebbe didn't take any Yechidus at all, like the month of Elul, and other times that the Rebbe did not have any Yechidus for a measure of time. But otherwise, Yechidus first was three times a week, then it was two times a week. Now, Bochurim and Yingerleight used to go in before the Yom Im Leledis. Also, Chassanim and Kallas and the Mechutonim would go in before a Chasuna. Before the Chasuna, the last Yechidus, like, uh, more than a week before the Chasuna, because during the week of the Chasuna, the Choson and Kalla can't see each other. But anything before that, the last Yechidus before that, the Choson and Kalla would go in together. The parents of the Choson would go in together, the mother and the father, and the parents of the Kalla, the father and the mother would, would go in togeth-- would go in Yechidus. And when the Choson Kalla went in, sometimes what would happen is that the Kalla would go out after the Rebbe finished giving them the Brachos. The Choson would stay in, hand the Rebbe his own Sefer Torah because he had his own personal

01:23 Inyonim and Aveida or other things that he had, and give it to the Rebbe, and the Rebbe would read it and give a Bracha, Sefer Torah Bracha, and answer the Shailas that this Choson might have had or whatever he had. Originally also, not only after they be- they were Choson Kalla and they were getting married, but even when they became Choson Kalla, they would go into Yechidus, which means basically when they would ask the Rebbe for a Hazkama to become a Choson and Kalla. So the Choson, the Bochur, would go in himself, the Kalla would go in herself, the girl, and the Rebbe would give the Hazkama. That's how they would get their Hazkama and become Choson Kalla. So it was not only when they were Choson Kalla already, but before that, they would go into Yechidus to get a Hazkama. Also, for Bar Mitzvah, there was a time to go into Yechidus. The family would go into Yechidus with the Bar Mitzvah Bochur, and the Rebbe would give Brachos for the Bar Mitzvah. The Rebbe would usually ask the Bar Mitzvah Bochur concerning the Maamer that he's saying, also concerning the Pilpul. Sometimes he even ask him to say a little bit of the Maamer, sometimes a little bit of the Pilpul, or might maybe ask questions. When I went into Yechidus before my Bar Mitzvah, which is in Adar, when this happened, when we were in New York for Yud Beis Tammuz. So the Rebbe asked me about Maamer. He also asked me

02:35 what my Pilpul is about, and I told him it's about Mitzvas Sechas Kavana or Mitzvas Ein Sechas Kavana. And the Rebbe asked me a few Shailas concerning that Inyan. So this Bar Mitzvah time was another time that you were able to go into Yechidus. Even a woman before she gave birth would go into Yechidus to get a Bracha from the Rebbe, and many times she would go in with her husband, sometimes herself. This is also an, uh, time that was set aside for people to go into Yechidus. Orchim, when they would come to the Rebbe, would go into Yechidus. If an Orayach came for a Yechiat, Yotzaras Kitzur or any Yemei Depagra, afterwards, he would go into Yechidus, which means that even if he came to the Rebbe three times a year, three times a year would go into Yechidus. The Seder was when you go to the Rebbe, you come to the Rebbe, you daven with a Minyan, and then you go into Yechidus. But then later, the Rebbe stopped it, and they were Magbilit that you could only go in once a year. So an Orayach would come, he would only be able to go in once a year Yechidus at any time that he chose. The Seder was that if the Orayach who came had children, boys or girls, sons or daughters learning in New York, would many times go into Yechidus with the parent or the parents that came for the Yemei Depagra, and they would go into Yechidus. I myself

03:46 went into Yechidus with my father and sometimes my parents, even after I learned in New York already, because when they went in, the children also went in together with them. And then this stopped the middle of the Lamed. Yechidus Proteys stopped for Bochurim. Then later it stopped even for Yingerleight. Then it even stopped for Orchim. Years later, it even stopped for Orchim. And instead of that, started Yechidus Klalis. That means that a few times a year, basically it was after Yemei Depagra, after Yechiat, after Yotzaras Kitzur, after Purim, I think, and after Pesach or whatever, after Yemei Depagra, special days, the Rebbe had Yechidus for, let's say, Choson Kallas. So all the people who were getting married, the Choson Kalla and the parents, the Mechutonim, would go into Yechidus. So the whole group of all the Choson Kallas from then till the next time there will be Yechidus would go into Yechidus Klalis. And also for Bar Mitzvah, there was a special Yechidus for Bar Mitzvahs, and there was a special Yechidus for Orchim, which was also... And by the Yechidus, the Seder was that the Rebbe would say a Sicha, speak to the, all the people there, like all the Choson Kallas and the Mechutonim, or all the Bar Mitzvah boys and the parents, or a different Yechidus, all the Orchim, which would be the same night, but it would be different groups going in. The Seder would be the Rebbe would speak, and after that, you would go by the Rebbe, give the

04:59 Rebbe a Sefer Torah like you would do at Yechidus, and the Rebbe would give out Dalos to everybody who was there. And the Rebbe said that Yechidus Klalis, like I said before, is like Yechidus and even more like Y- than Yechidus because it has the Middah of being together with a Klal. But still, from our Hargasha, we missed the Yechidus Proteys, even though Mesad HaRebbe's Hashpa'as, it was still there. But from time to time, when you remind yourself, Niskorim, you remind yourself the feeling and the way it was step by step of going to Yechidus, Nasim, you actually relive it and you feel the, again. But it's not enough to just feel it. We're waiting for it to happen actually, which B'korov Mamash, we'll see the Rebbe again, and we'll be able to go into Yechidus Proteys again, and we'll have HaAvrengas, and we'll have all the Giluyim B'korov Mamash.