0389 - Spending Money to Come for a Wedding - Lieberman

00:00 When my brother-in-law, Rabbi Yankel Lieberman, who was one of the schlichim of the Rebbe Teitz Yisroel, when he got married, it was in Paris. At that time, his brother, my other brother-in-law, Rabbi Chaim Meir, was a schliach in South Africa. And he would like to come to the chassid of his brother. So he asked the Rebbe if he could come, and the Rebbe answered, HaTorah chaso al mamenen shel Yisroel. That the Torah is worried, cares about money of Yidden. In other words, it's cost a lot of money, and he shouldn't come. When my in-laws went into yichidis before the chassid, my father-in-law was planning to ask the Rebbe the question again whether his son, Chaim Meir, could come to the chassid, his son and the family, et cetera, et cetera. Before he went in, Rabbi Groner tells him, you cannot write anything in the tzettel, b'chlal. Only thing is asking for a brocha for the chassid. So he wrote in the tzettel, he's asking a brocha for the chassid, but he also wrote he's asking the Rebbe permission to ask a question. So when went into yichidis, the first thing the Rebbe said, he turned around to my mother-in-law, and he said to her, Ich haba kumen a brief von arimame. I received a letter from your mother that she was complaining why the Rebbe sent her grandson such a far place to South Africa. So the Rebbe said, Ich hof az hot niski far ibel. I hope that your mother is not upset on

01:22 what I did in sending your son to such a far place. So my mother-in-law answered, Avadi she doesn't have far ibel. Not only that, she regrets she even wrote the letter. She feels bad that she wrote that letter. And then the Rebbe gave him the brocha for the chassid. And the Rebbe did not react to this line that my father-in-law wrote, that he's asking permission to ask a question. So when he saw that the Rebbe didn't react to it, he says to the Rebbe, can I ask a question? The Rebbe understood what his question is going to be, that it's going to be about his son coming to the chassid. So the Rebbe right away said, Choducham shul ge answered. I already answered him. So my father-in-law said in the loshon of a joke, trying to start a conversation, he said, the Rebbe wrote that Atara chassid al mamenen shel Yisroel. So that's Yisroel. Ich medoch halevi. I'm a levi. So it doesn't apply to me. So the Rebbe smiled. And then the Rebbe said to him, Chodish gevust as a aychazei fulnegei. I didn't know that you, it really bothers you. You really, really want it so much. And especially, I don't want that your mother-in-law, which means my shviger's mother, your mother-in-law, should be upset. Now, the Rebbe b'chlal had a special yachas to her, as I mentioned in one of the previous voice notes. And the Rebbe once wrote to me about her, Zeot os koshef radint. In Yiddish, the Rebbe wrote

02:39 that she deserves it 100%. So the Rebbe had a special yachas. So the Rebbe did not want that she should be upset. So the Rebbe said, I didn't know it's negei to you so much. And especially, I don't want that your mother-in-law should be upset. So therefore, he said to him, if you will give the same amount of money that it'll cost to bring him to Tzodokia with a hisofa, with an addition of 10%, then he could come. And the Rebbe repeated again that I don't want your mother-in-law to be upset.