Don't get caught in the past

00:01 [unclear] This is the time for teshuvah. [unclear] Now, a young man needs to be [unclear]. But let’s take a rabbi, for example. There’s a story: Two people come to a rabbi to get divorced, and the rabbi looks at them and thinks about how to make peace between them. He speaks with the husband separately and with the wife separately, talks things through with them, and makes peace between them. Some time later, the rabbi tells his attendant, “Go see what’s happening at their house.” The attendant goes there and sees them sitting on the porch, drinking tea and talking. Everything is fine—peaceful and calm. But an hour later, they come back to the rabbi and say they still want to get divorced. “What happened? You were sitting together so nicely. We made peace between you. What brought this on?” “What do you mean, me? You’re the one who…” “You said…” “You said…” And they started arguing again. They come to the rabbi, wanting to go ahead with the divorce. The rabbi says, “There’s no need to dwell on what happened in the past. Who’s to blame—the wife, the husband, someone else? You need to move forward. There’s no need to dwell…”